i don't have any specific expectations to lower. I DO expect a decision, and if that is considered too much expectation, so be it. Actually, I guess I have the expectation that he will waffle or just come out and say he is done trying (not that I feel like he ever really tried). Anything else would be a pleasant surprise.
I will not be a b!tch either way, but "pleasant" may be a bit much for me if he chooses to walk away from our family for good. "Neutral" would be a good reaction from me, not angry, not whiny, but not pleased, either. I cannot act pleased about something that goes against everything I believe in. I am sure I will say something along the lines of "I am sorry you feel that is the best choice for you. Let's prepare for telling S tomorrow". I can cry about it later.....once he is gone.
Actually H called about 20 minutes ago. He said he had the trailer hooked up to the truck (at his parents') and was leaving very soon. So he should be down here around 10:30 or 11. I am assuming 11:30 so I don't get antsy.
S told H he wants to go to his favorite restaurant tomorrow night, "T Rex". It is modeled after the Rainforest Cafe inside, but is dinosaur themed. Huge 2 story animatronic dinosaurs, a simulated volcano eruption every 30 minutes, etc. I told him last week to think of things he wanted to do before we moved that he couldn't do in Iowa. I am fine with going but it will sure be weird if we tell S in the morning and then all go out for supper. Actually, I suppose it would cement for S that we will always be a family...
I am putting the cart before the horse since I haven't even "talked" to H yet. I am going to wait and see if he brings it up when he gets here. If he has said nothing by the time he gets ready to go to bed, then I will ask him what his thoughts are.
If I get a chance I will post an update tonight or tomorrow.....