Do you have no interest in seeing a marriage counsellor with your H at all?
If you do, then I suggest you forget your prior "in your face" plans, and make the appointment with him.
If you dont have any interest, then again, i suggest just skipping the "in your face" stuff, and just divorce him. Stop playing games.
if you dont have any intention of being around him ever again, then you dont need to "wait for books to arrive".
if you DO have some intention of allowing the possibility: then forget the books you ordered. they will only make you bitter and set you back. Go for the marriage counselling.
Basically, seems like you have one foot in one direction, and one foot in the other. You cant really move in either direction, until you decide which way you are going, and then moving both your feet in that direction.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
