W and I piecing this M back together #2

[Rob1231]

I told her we can't just pretend it didn't happen, we did that in 2005, and come 2007 it happened again. The best she could offer was she was unhappy at the time of the A's and now she wished they never happened.

There was more to the whole conversation but the bottom line is she wants the whole thing swept under the carpet with out being addressed properly .

I think we getting on really fine at the moment and W said she very happy, but I think I took exception to her saying lets move on like it never happened and "oh I don't think you'll ever let this go"

Lan, I've been in that spot - and W and I still have never talked about the A in any direct way, not once since the night she admitted it to me. And you know what? It's OK.

Remember that the A was a symptom of your R problems - not the cause. So when you do talk, talk about the root causes in a positive "how to do better from now on" frame of mind, and don't focus on the negative things that resulted from your past mistakes. Put them behind you both and build something great for your future instead.