unevitably aboard the D train...

[oldtimer]

Let's suppose that in fact you still want to reconcile.

There is no way to get from here to there that involves you pursuing STBX.

Now, if for 100% SURE you want the divorce, by all means, keep trying to get him to say things you want him to say, to see things your way.

Glad he didn't pick up the phone.

"ADHD people feel outside this word and can't relate half the time"

You might find it helpful to drop this description of people with ADHD from your mental picture. I think it is pretty negative and pretty inaccurate.