W feels some guilt, but still 100% absorbed in her own feelings, has little sense of your pain. Can someone tell us if this dynamic ever gets reversed or is it something the LBS has to live with forever?
If ever a quote were so true.
W and I got into some R talk on the back of her talking about plans for my 50th in 5 years time. Basically she doesn't want any R talk. In her mind shes moved on from the A, doesn't even think about it. In fact she said she wants us to move on as if it never happened. WTF !!
I told her I'm not bother bout the A but we need to talk about the possible circumstances that led up to it and how we should heed the danger signs.
I told her we can't just pretend it didn't happen, we did that in 2005, and come 2007 it happened again. The best she could offer was she was unhappy at the time of the A's and now she wished they never happened.
There was more to the whole conversation but the bottom line is she wants the whole thing swept under the carpet with out being addressed properly .
I think we getting on really fine at the moment and W said she very happy, but I think I took exception to her saying lets move on like it never happened and "oh I don't think you'll ever let this go"
Anyway we back on track today I'm glad I let her know that we still need to address some issues, I guess in time if all goes well the issues won't be as important.
