I saw a counselor last week who reveiwed my psych test, and concluded that I DO NOT have a mood disorder or personality disorder as h thinks. He did say that I need to get out of the marriage, and that he is emotionally abusive. Next week, I'm taking h to my appt for him to be told that I'm not crazy, or mentally ill. He's gonna be pissed. He's been telling me for years that something is wrong with me, and I need medications.
This is what my emotionally abusive H told me too. I needed meds, that I was crazy. He felt something was wrong with me for years. HA! It was because of his abusive, manipulative tactics! I did learn I was codependent (adult child of an alcoholic here). But not so much now that I saw it. That probably kept my marriage going all these years!
I would just be cautious of your H AFTER that counseling session where you plan to have the counselor tell him he was wrong. You don't know what that could set off in him. From my experience the counselors don't really tell them "you were wrong." I was hoping my counselor would too after H used physical intimidation on me but the therapist did not.
Please make sure your counselor is trained in domestic violence. If he is in fact abusive, then standard marriage counselor does not work
