I'm sure he is retreating to an extent. But his disregard for our vows, the commitment of marriage troubles me an extreme amount. How can I trust that the next time it doesn't feel good to him he won't bolt? I know how people who have it worse than us get through it: it's called commitment. His "make up" doesn't allow him to stay through the rough times and there will be more rough times. Together is not his fashion.

I don't think I can live with that.

Me: 42/H: 37
T: 10 years/M: 8
D9, S8
Bomb: 7.23.07
Separated: 1.20.08
D Final 3.19.09
Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09

My life is good.