Funny thing happened yesterday. I knew H was going to be working late, so I made my Hamburger Helper and ate it and then I needed some stuff at the store so I went ahead and left (this is a 180) and I didn't leave him a note about it. Well...I get a TM saying "Where R U?????" That totally made me laugh because it was just Saturday night that I had no clue where he was. Another thing that made me chuckle was that H told me that he has to work on Sunday morning from 9-noon. He seemed really concerned about me going to church alone. I said, "Umm...H, I just went to church alone this past Sunday when you decided not to come home." He obviously wasn't too concerned about that last weekend, was he?
Things still have been going alright. We are still sleeping in seperate places (me outside in the doll room and him in the bedroom), but he has been MUCH more appreciative of the things I have been doing around the house and has been helpful.
Tonight I have guitar lessons. I am having a difficult with with playing the opening to Across the Universe. My guitar teacher is pretty cute and really nice. He is totally married and not that I would even "go there" but it never hurts to have a cute teacher.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
My guitar lesson was canceled last night. The instructor had an emergency in his family or something. I was really looking forward to my lesson, but I guess I will just have to wait until next week.
H and I went to the Chinese resturant last night. Guess who was there? No not the OW (thank God) but H's parents! AHHH!! MIL cornered me and invited herself over for today to give me a present (typically she buys me stuff that is strange). I think she is just fishing for information. I am going to try to tell her nicely that I don't want to talk about things between me and her son. I do not like my MIL. I think she is pushy and favors her other son (the one that is 36 and lives at home smoking pot all day and picks up strange men at bars and brings them into her home to have sex with) way more than my H. Honestly, my H doesn't like his mom much either and she really has no idea what has been going on between us except that it isn't good. My H is adopted so at least I know that he doesn't get any of her genes! Haha!
Strangeness occured this morning. I am not too sure what to think about it. H knocks on my door and wakes me up. I stumble over to answer it and he says that he wanted me to know that he was going to run some erands and would be back later. Then he hugs me!!!! You know that I have been wanting a hug from my H since the last time he hugs me on Jan 20! Then he kisses me on the cheek and again quickly on the lips. Since I am now awake, I go inside the house and written on the message board is "I am out run some arands (my H can't spell, but then I am a bad speller too) Love You!" And there are little happy faces all around the message. I am not sure what to think.....
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I think I am figuring out what is going on with H. I think he is seeing the OW again. I called him late this morning to tell him that I was going to be out. He doesn't answer, so I leave a voice message. He calls me about 15 mins later and says "Hi Amanda" (OW's name). I tell him that he is speaking to his wife and not his gf. He gets all appologetic and says that he has no clue why her name slipped out. Whatever. He has said 2 weekends in a row now that he is going to to "get the oil changed in the car." He hasn't been home all day. His mother should be coming over any mintue now.
I don't know what to think. Is he seeing the OW again? What should I do? It is REALLY difficult to trust him because he has broken that trust several times in our marriage. I WANT to believe that he isn't back having an affair, but part of me sees so many signs that they are back together.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I was hoping from your ealier post that things had possibly changed with your H
Be calm, do nothing right now, the worse stuff comes out when we are angry and upset, its better to wait and think things out. Talk to the girls, excuse me ladies on this site and get their ideas
I know what you mean about signs, wife was shopping all day, could reach her on her cell phone, just came home with nothing (I know women shop and don't buy anything) this happens ever Saturday.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 2 Dogs and 1 Cat OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 and still going ???
H just came home. He quickly changed into his work out clothes and left again. I found a reciept on the floor for roses. I am crushed. I can't do this again....I just can't.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Same thing happened to me today, wife left me and the kids this morning at 8:00 am and I posted shortly after, that I expected she would probably be back at 3:30 to change and go to work, I don't know where she has been all day, she did come back right around 3:30 took a shower and left for work.
This, (I don't know what to say) I can't take this over and over I know how you feel, why us, what did we do, what did we do that we wouldn't be glad to change. its not us, we are good people, you are a good person, do something special for yourself tonight
I'm going to take the kids out to dinner and have someone wait on me for a change.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 and still going ???
He gave me some really stupid excuse that didn't make sense about the rose receipt. He is taking a shower right now and I see that he took his cell phone with him!!!! WTF! Is he going to talk to her in the shower?
The messed up part of this with me is that I am really enjoying the time I spent with him yesterday (all evening). He hugged me again and we had this wonderful conversation remembering vacations we had taken and funny things that have happened. He shared with me his worries about taking these classes in nursing and how he is scared he won't cut it. I reminded him of all the jerks he dealt with at the Bible college and he made it through that.
Right now I am waiting to see what I am going to do. I can't live like I did back in January where H was staying overnight with OW half of the time and with me half of the time. I am still willing to work on this marriage and not ready to move on from it. But I can't live in the same house with a man who has another woman on the side. The thing is that the only way he will leave is if I go to a lawyer and make it legal. Only I would have a Walk away Spouse that won't leave! HAHA! Anyhow...I am going to sit on this and pray about it and think really hard about it. I know I don't need to decide anything today or tomorrow.
Oh...I didn't get into the reading acadamy (due to my principal not turning in my paperwork on time!) so it looks like Disney is back on for this summer. AND....being the spoiled only child I am, my Dad just bought me a new computer.
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
Moving to infidelity....don't feel like I am piecing anything anymore....
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
The instructor had an emergency in his family or something. I was really looking forward to my lesson, but I guess I will just have to wait until next week. 