Yep, I've told him this a lot of times. He just doesn't like to say "no" and he doesn't like letting other people down, so he avoids anything that hints at that. It's a big problem.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09