Thank you so much for updating us. You sound as though you know what you need to do in order for things to work out for you both and you are taking a sensible approach.
I imagine your W is carrying a lot of guilt around at the moment for the OM. I know my H felt guilt about OW. She needs to get through this and you sound very supportive. Don't bad mouth OM as that will make her leap to his defense - better if she has contact that he is not complementary about you but you show your W you are the bigger person and can rise above it. Show your W by your actions that you have changed. She is with you and that is a good portion of the battle.
I will keep checking back - but in the mean time - congratulations, and I am glad she has talked to you about OM. Now you can begin to heal.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
