Jak I was just stopping by your thread and trying to catch up. I am only on here and there as I had the baby a few weeks ago. Most beautiful and precious thing in my life.
Hope you are doing good.!! Take care.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Why does everything always happen at once? I know God has a reason for all things but give me a break.
My MIL has not been feeling good for a while. SHe has kept things from Doc and finally just came clean. She has had CTs done and she has cancer that has spread. Pancreas to start and it spread to her liver and lungs.
Working in a medical facility I do know that there really is no hope for recovery and the Dr. has been truthful with me about this. we have to go through the motions of a formal diagnosis but, it is certain. Dr. did tell her everything within reason and also told her that the years of smoking put her at very high risk for this. I was glad he said that as she was always very indignant about her addiction.
Don't know how much H is going to be able to bear.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 04/16/0804:13 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
They have to formally diagnose the cancer but they say that it is a mute point right now.
Her family Physician gave her a 3 to 6 month window in his OP.
She is being very non-compliant. we have to keep telling docs the truth so they know what to do with her. H hasn't said a word. It is so funny that MIL'S doc said it looks like H is just like MIL not wanting to deal with anything. and he only saw him for half an hour. Doc is a friend of mine.
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 04/17/0802:59 PM.
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Hi Jak....I am still posting every once in awhile in Newcomers, but hardly find time anymore. maybe that is a good thing!!!???
H is doing great. He is here and making plans for the future. OW seems to be a distant memory but time will tell. I still have my radar up and ready for anything. I have been through too much in the past almost 2 years to relax yet. H could still change back to the alien at any moment. Sad to think that and I think I should be going with the moment and be happy, but don't want to be blindsided again.
Baby is wonderful and everyone here loves her. She has changed H in so many ways I can't even begin to tell you. He also quit drinking which made all the difference. He says he is ashamed of the things he did while drinking. Once again, I hope it sticks.
I will check in with you when I can. Hope you are doing good.
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
It is so funny that MIL'S doc said it looks like H is just like MIL not wanting to deal with anything.
Did he say this TO your H? Isn't it nice when other people validate your feelings? It doesn't make the problem go away, but it should confirm that it's him, not YOU!
[/quote]Did he say this TO your H? Isn't it nice when other people validate your feelings? It doesn't make the problem go away, but it should confirm that it's him, not YOU![quote]
N, Mat he didn't say ti to H just me. I wish he had though Yes it does validate my feelings and confirm the fact that it's him and not me.
Journaling:
SIL that is the health care proxy has been out of town and not reachable most of the time. I think it's time to add someone else to the proxy that is more available since SIL would still rather travel even now when she might be needed. So im'e taking steps for that to happen and don't care what SIL thinks as we need to think about their Mom right now. This also happened with their Dad right at a crucial time before he died, so I am not willing to let it happen again.
H seems ok for the most part but nothing is written in stone yet so we are waiting to hear on the Biopsy results so that we can have a formal diagnosis.
Just trying to stay far enough in distance while helping take care of things too ad I am the most available.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
