The Best Way to End it All?

[cat03]

ditto with the above, it will just get uglier (any D is ugly on its own) Even as I cooperate with my own SA (we are doing mediation) I'm also called "bitter" by stbx when I used to bring up old stuff in a failed attempt to *make him see* how wrong a D is for a family (I have since realized stbx is truly miserable and unable to be the loving H I want and a ft dad for the kids)

and I continue to grapple with the absurdity of this entire situation.

I hear you, it is mind boggling and this is an issue that is very hard to deal with, because us, the LBS want to make to sense out of it...when truly you just CANT, it is crystal clear to us, how salvageable our Ms are, but they live in another reality and their logic just doesn't and might never make sense.

When does the actual financial transfer take place - only after a divorce has been granted?

My separation agreement is almost done, we put dates on when things should be done, let's say, in your case you both decide that you'll buy her out (about the car) in installments in the next 5mths. After the SA is signed and final it is a legal document, you both agreed to its terms and follow its timeline.
Right now, I'm buying out stbx's share of our home, the SA isn't final yet (soon, just ironing out a few details), but he's already giving me the agreed amount in CSupport and I've already gave him the first installment for his share.

I dont' see how applying for a mortgage would interfere with the sep. paperwork, are you wanting to buy a place now?