To agree to a D or not..... that is the question

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I too hate those hang up calls, when it gets to be too much I just disconnect my phone.

Well, as long as you are just communicating about children you should be alright, though I'd also hate to have someone else reading what I write.
Does s15 want to live with his dad, do you personally things it'd be for his best interests? I wonder sometimes, as my son growns up, he'll naturally might want a male around him and might prefer his dad even though now he is way more attach to me.

Hon, we make our lives very hard sometimes when we refuse to let go, it is damn hard to let go (just came out from a denial bout myself after doing well for 2mths), I hear you, but train your thoughts to deal with who H is now, a person who's light years away from what used to be your M, wants a D & is already involved and it's been more than 2yrs (if it were a S of 6mths I wouldnt' be saying this).

My own S is only 3mths old, but for the past year stbx has been emotionally/mentally gone from our M, and no matter how good of a W I was or how many chances I gave him betrayal after betrayal *nothing* made him WANT me, our M, our home. Their lives are pointing away from us ACJ, they believe the path they have taken, in our cases, no amount of convincing/dragging our heels will make them change their minds.