No, I see no benefits in dragging it out. Some have to go through the divorce to feel the consequences of their actions. Dragging it out just looks more "controlling" to the mid lifer and they hate that. They build up more resentment because you are not giving them what they want.
During the divorce proceedings I kept interjecting repeatedly that "I did not want the divorce". I stalled it somewhat but made it look like I was complying with what he wanted, but still verbally stated my objections.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
