Can you work past it? YES Will you work past? Your choice, it won't be easy either way.
Depersonalize it, she didn't do it to you, she did it to herself. It was not a lack of respect for you, but rather a lack of respect for herself. Is it your fault? Nope! Should you have known? NO! why, because you trusted her completely. Can that trust be earned back? YES! it takes alot of time though and a lot of hard work on both parts.
Obviously she felt some needs weren't being met. the key is "felt". Now if you can identify or she can help, you can change those things about your M. Don't beat yourself up over it, if you choose not to be with her, that is your choice, but don't fall into the trap of she did this so I don't love her anymore. You both made a vow to each other, she broke the vow, she messed up royally.
Do you want to give her a chance to earn back the trust? You made a vow also for better or worse. Most folks would completely understand if you decided you are better off without her as your W. Me included, hence the divorce rate is 50%. I have faith you will make the right choice for all. You will give yourself time and you will seek information and understanding, you will look to verify what others say and what is written. I am sure you will pray, in the end you will make the right choice. Trust and believe in yourself to work through it.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
