The hits just keep on rolling! I guess I opened a pandora's box with the spy business. So my best guess at this point is she has been sleeping with and/or "fooling around" with OM(1) Today's recording revealed she has met another guy OM(2)and is meeting him tomorrow for lunch. I heard a call to her brother asking for advice on how to tell the new guy she is M & has kids. She was all excited about the date as she called it. I am having a hard time deciding what to do at this point. I read in another post here about a guy who embraced the split, became his W's best friend & supported her in everyway, including moving out and dating (I think). They eventually reconciled and lived happily ever after...Sounded like a good approach. I want to tell her my gut is still telling me there is something going on. (which it has been b4 the recordings) and basically give her freedom to date or whatever. Work my ass off on me and what I need to focus on, be the better man and then live happily ever after. If it were only so simple huh? As I think more I am getting pissed off that she have given up on us. That her commitment to marriage was a load of BS. When I said "I DO" I meant it for my life. I think she meant it so long as everything was easy and fun. Right now, & last 5 yrs have been the worse in "for better or worse" I know I will get back to what I once was, she does not have the faith in me or even hope at this point. What sucks, is I hear it in her voice when she talks to me. Her sorrow, her misery, and disappointment. W/the recordings, I hear her perky fun playful side I have not heard in years. I am not so hot on telling OM(1) S about any affair at this point. Plus I have to locate them first. I was considering showing up at the place they plan to have lunch tomorrow and pretend it was a chance encounter. I am never in that area and it would be obvious I was out of place there. This sucks. Calgon take me away! The gym helped tonight I worked my ass off and then broke down in the car driving home. Screaming at the top of my lungs what I was feeling etc. Called her names, begged God for help, you name it, I yelled it. Sobbed for a bit, pulled myself together and came here to vent some & just get it out. Okay, it's late time for a quick snooze B4 it's time to get up...or one of my kids needs something.
ME 33 W 37 Together 8 M: 5+ disconnected: 5 D: 2 D: 3
