I have never asked my kids to take sides at all.

H and S17 had been very close even before this mess and when H talks to him it is rarely about what H is going thru or doing and he never brings up OW but instead just discusses how mixed up in the head he is and about how he must stop the drinking.

Aside from that it is small talk about what S17 is doing that sort of thing.

I am not usually around when S is talking to H because it happens when I am at work or very very late at night.

What my daughter did, I had no idea and was unaware of it until over an hour after she sent her text message. She felt she had had enough and was never given the chance to express how she felt about her dad and what he was doing. Her words, her choice to tell him exactly what she felt. I never saw the text because she deleted it after she sent it. Sometimes out of the mouth of babes is better than coming from my mouth. I would never coach my kids on what to say to their dad.

As I always say, God is in control.


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19