I'm in agreement with Kalni.. I often feel grateful that I at least am able to be friendly with my H.. there are so many people here that deal with awful spew all of the time.. that would be unbearable for me.
I would guess that your H does want to come home but worries that he will not be able to do the long haul.. and doesn't want to walk out on you again and hurt you all over again.
You are right. He needs to address his issues if he has any hope of finding happiness.
