Alive yes, kicking...not so much. Looking for the younger guy. I think I'm about done waiting. I think the time has definitely come for family counsling.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Well friends, I am sorry to say that my happy ending won't be with H. H let me know today that he has no intention of working on our marriage. He doesn't want to forgive me for what I have done in the past. I guess he thinks that he will be happy if he leaves me and our home. If that were true I would be ok with this, however, I know until he learns to forgive he won't be happy. Unfortunately we all know how my H will say something but then he doesn't follow through. I'm sure I'll have to pack for him to leave and I will have to file the D papers. At least I know that happier days are down the road for me....I just don't' know who that is yet that God intends to make me happy. Please pray for me and the Ds.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I'm sorry. But, you know, that doesn't mean it has to be done. Others have said the same thing. Though, you can decide it is done. For now, maybe do nothing, really nothing, and wait a bit. See what you fell.
dry, H has strung me along for 10 months. Today he went to his T and finally asked about the names of some other Ts. That was my suggestion from my T..either an MC, someone to counsel on D or a family T. H brought hom the name of 3 Ts for "joint" parenting advice. Still didn't tell me wtf his plan was. After he left I sent a msg saying "I need an answer. Do you have any plans of ever working on us." I know it was bad DBing, but I am at the point where I need to move on and be happy with or without him. The reply "No I do not...sory. I have tried and just don't think there's any hope of things significantly improving." I then called an let him have it verbally. I went to my T appt. Then we "talked" after that. H refuses to forgive me for anything and move on. As long as he won't work on anything, we can't be happy. I want to be happy, so I'll start looking for someone that fits that bill. Kalni and BBJ want someone young. I hate to disappoint my gals, so I'll look for young.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
Hmmm, on the good-bad scale, that certainly falls on the "bad" side! I wouldn't try to rush, but it could happen that as things start to move he might actually engage his brain. Something good could even happen in the "joint" parenting sessions, perhaps?
But, you are right, if he can't forgive, you are stuck (and vice-versa, if that was the case).
I'm going to have to have a talk with Kalni, when she gets up!
I was just teasing about the young. I would gladly trade age for *honesty *loyalty *affection *support
I am sure you would too. I am so sorry. I think the talk you had today is the one I am going to have tomorrow night and I am dreading it. But the months and months of not knowing aren't fun either. I know it isn't the answer you want. Can you tell me, is there any peace in "knowing"? I like to think I will be relieved to know either way, but I don't know if that is the case. Thanks for letting me pick your brain.
I am glad the Ds have you there for them during this time. They are lucky to have a great mom like you.
I wish I could do something to help. If I were near your area, I would come and visit.....
BBJ, although it helps to know, it feels like a part of me died. I do know though that I can move on, and I already have lunch plans with a young guy for lunch tomorrow. Nothing romatic, just crying in each others' lunches most likely. BUt at least I know I have plans with someone who wants to spend time with me.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
