To see a new poster, only 3 months into supposedly saving their Marriage and already they have given up and started a new relationship.
I am sorry to sound like I am beating a dead horse, but why the hell are you here if you have already chosen to move on?
I do find it rather hypocrytical to have an affair as LRT. To me this sounds more like payback.
He had an affair so I will too......so very high school!
Affairs cause more damage to an already very fractured Marriage.
I do not know your whole history, but I can tell you from my experience here that you are so off base, and maybe you need to take a time out and re-read DB and figure out what the hell you are doing.
What kind of example are you setting for your kids? And when they ask you what you did to try and keep the family together are you going to tell them that you just gave up and hopped into bed with the first available person that came along?
I also want to add that regardless of my own personal convictions I have the ultimate respect for people who really have given it their all and then decided to go ahead with the Divorce.
Not every Marriage here will be saved, but given all of the resources here and the support from so many posters, you have no excuse not to try and DB properly.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
