Next Steps for W2G (4th Thread)

[Irish_love]

W2G,
Hello!
I am new to posting here but I have been reading posts for over a month. I want you to know that your progress has been good and very inspiring to me.

Take care,
Angela

[W2G]

Hi Angela & welcome to the board (although I'm sorry that anyone is in a sitch that leads them here).

I'm so pleased that anything I've posted has been valuable to you. I will check in on your thread and see how you're doing!

Journaling.
Hmmm.. not sure where I left off with my previous post.. Did want to say a quick thanks to Stella for reminding me to give a status update on my Mom.. Frustratingly she has not received her results yet. I asked her to contact her family Dr to get the results.. She said she called yesterday and that they said they'd call her back.. they haven't yet done so. My Mom is assuming this means they haven't received the results yet. Still refusing to even think that something serious is wrong.. would rather only think VERY POSITIVE thoughts about her results unless I'm told otherwise.

As per H... not sure what's going on there. I am just doing my own thing.. I will admit that I have been a little sad since his departure on Tuesday night.. it was nice having him around.. I know D2 loved it too! But at the same time I'm not sobbing and hysterical.. just a little blue. His parents and my Mom came over last night.. and H came over too.. D2 was SO HAPPY!! She really loves seeing her Grandparents. Overall the visit was nice. H came over today as well. His plan was to attend my yoga class with me (we had done yoga together before we moved 7 years ago).. since his surgery I had him try a couple of downward dogs before we left.. just to be sure he wouldn't have too much pressure on his face... turns out there was some pressure but it was manageable.. the big problem was he was really dizzy when standing back up. I suggested that maybe he see how he feels next week.. he agreed.

Gosh, it feels like my sitch is so boring right now..... Friendship mode is I guess. I'm trying not to worry about him getting more into work over the next couple of months.. and the fact that he'll be spending more time with EA OW. I honestly try not to think about her at all... I'm not always successful but I do try. I may be kidding myself but for some reason I give A LOT of credit for my mental stability right now to taking yoga. I know I've only gone 3 times so far but I just feel so good when I'm practicing it!

Anyway, like I said.. not much to report... Oh, I guess I should mention on his 1st night away again he called & left a vm saying he arrived at the apartment alright and an "ILY".. and then the next day he called while D2 and I were out and said "I miss you guys." but still he's not here... he would prefer to still be on his own.

Gonna check in on y'all !

Hugs and kisses.
W2G

[transformer]

Where!!

You are doing so good!! this is gonna be quick but... wow, ILY on the phone and an I miss you guys!! Remember, slow and steady wins the race. Let him go on this journey, so when he comes home to you, he is really ready for it. I am SO excited about you two doing yoga together when his face gets better!! Keep us updated on that!! That would probably be really grounding for him spiritually with everything he's going through... and a great opportunity to spend time together, and maybe even show him some 180's!! (Like if you learn a new yoga pose that used to flummox you!) I am so glad you are going to yoga, I totally know what you mean, it is really powerful stuff.

And thanks for the update on your Mom. Keep us posted on that.

(((WHERE)))
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[transformer]

PS Friendship mode is NOT boring and don't you forget it!!! Cherish this time, this is a precious opportunity to lay a new healthy strong foundation for your new R!!!!!

[gForce]

Hey, considering how turbulent things can get, boring is good! But transformer is right, so many people in our shoes dream of even achieving friendship. You should be proud.

[Wooglint]

W2G,

It's not over yet. Those are really good signs. Keep your expectations low and learn to just be friends again.

I'm so pleased to see how well you are doing.

[phbear316]

w2g

just popped over to your thread, and did some catch up posting. Wow, I am so happy for you

Things are going great

As everyone says here keep you expectations low, it seem to be working out for you. Your friendship sounds great also. If still being on his own for now is helping both of you, which it seems like it is. Then don't rock the boat. This is good.

I wish I could come to some sort of friendship with h. I wish for even 1/8th of what you and h have. Maybe i should break h's jaw it may knock some sense into him, show him I care.

(((hugs w2g)))
bear

[AliSuddenly]

Hey W2G... that made me smile, friendship mode is so boring... I guess thats what I feel too! Yes its great, yes, were' lukcy, our WAS communicate with us, do little things for us, hell they even spend time in the house with us.. but...its all just, not much to get excited about! Its not romance. Anyway, its hard when you enjoy seeing someone, you cant help getting your hopes up, then they turn round and go again. Each time for me, its like a little bit of their leaving you all over again. At least he did come to stay with yuo when he was sick though, which is huge. He didnt have to do that, he could've gone to his Mums?

I think you are amazingly strong, becuase you are doing all this and handling it brilliantly, and with a little one, a 2 year old with this man. I dont know how you do it and stay so sane. I wish I were a little bit more like you! As soon as I am better, I think I will try going to yoga too, if you really think it helps that much.

Ali xxx
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Me: 37 BF: 34 T: 9 years
IDLYA: 2 Nov 07
Own flat: 26 Jan 08
Depression confirmed: 4 Mar
backing off?

[addie]

Hi W2G,
I think you are doing so well! We are in a similar sitch with our H's. Many, many positive signs, yet something is holding them back. That something is their own inner turmoil that they must work through before they can fully recommit. It is so difficult not to get your hopes up when H has shown so much interest, but you do have to keep your expectations low until he takes active steps to return to the M. It will happen for you!

[stella_k]

(((W2G))),

Friendship is GOOD!

Get ready for the next stage!