Totally Lost after 23 years

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CBK,
I really don't know if MC is the answer right now. It is important that you should continue with IC and your W as well with her IC, but with OM in the picture and W wanting a D, now may not be the time for MC. It will only reinforce to your W that the R issues are not solveable. I'm sorry the session did not go well at all.
Don't worry about breaking down. There will be setbacks along the way. Just try to refocus on DB.
You mentioned talking to a DB coach. I don't have any experience with one but have only heard good things on here.