The WAS see's the reality of their choices the greatest when the LBS start a relationship with some one else. It is the ultimate LTR. I think this may even apply greater to "good marriages" and MLC'ers because the WAS loses the security foundation of KNOWING that their LBS is sitting at home waiting for them.
Not going to let this one go.....because this idea is prevalent on the board.
Having an affair is NOT a DBing technique. It is NOT doing what works.
The effect someone is going for doing this.....upset the apple cart, the stability, the comfort, the taking for granted by the other partner.....can be achieved by other means. You ALWAYS have other options. Get creative.
That said.....MMB has made it clear she isn't using this as a technique....she's lonely. She's horny. She knows it may not achieve her objectives.....and she has 'heard' us. And it was fair for us to tell her.
Doing more of the same with her will not likely work.
So let's get to the business of DBing with her....because that's what we're here for.
MMB -- what are the positives? What do you and H have going for you?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
