Wow, Corey! Things are looking a little brighter over here! Many positives.

Originally Posted By: grumpyeby
I'm going to have to keep working on just taking it easy and just keeping up the "friendship" portion, that seems to be what is working in my favor right now. Not talking to him only seems to drive him that much further away.


I think this is a GREAT idea. \:\)

If I'm not mistaken, and I sincerely apologize if I am, wasn't it your H who said that you didn't "pursue him enough"? If this is so, how about giving him a call or even just a TM every once in a while to say "hi", "how r u today?", or "Such a nice day! Hope its a great one 4 u!"? Wondering if he'd appreciate that.

If you and the kids are going out to dinner/movie/etc, perhaps invite him along sometimes. I think Michelle was spot on when she said your H's LL could possibly be QT. Seems like he wants to feel included in your activities.

Try it out for a while....a week, two weeks....and see how it goes. Do not expect anything though. Keep things light, very low-key, and with no expectations whatsoever.

Your H IS still up on that fence. NOW is the time for you to BE the better view.

;\)

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell