So lets see Miss Betsy you asked me if my feelings about my FIL and MIL was because they had "accepted" bimbo b. Well YES. AND I have thought many many times about what I would do if I were in my MIL shoes. I do remember a few times through this..we were discussing her situation when FIL walked out....I said I can't believe how much H is like FIL...she said I never realized how much. I am sure it has been a very sad awakening for her. Their entire family were always "secret" keepers..and after H tried to committ suicide last summer she said "No more secrets...."
I guess it is also not knowing where to draw the line. I mean if I ever go back to Iowa I have been invited to stay there....but what do I do then look at "happy" pictures of H and Bimbo? It just is so wrong - all of it. I guess that is where the questions come...how "far" do I have to let go.
IMP -thank you for telling me your thoughts. I guess every now and then to get a "atta boy" from someone who really seems to tell it like it is..well it is just nice. So thanks.
I am trying hard to move forward. IT is WIERD!! VERY WIERD. I am really looking at MY LIFE and what I need to do to prepare for MY FUTURE etc. It is so strange to not have it linked to H in anyway. Things like savings plans, buying a home, the lack of retirement that i have and how I need to build it and NOT depend on H. Those things have been strange.
Hope that i can be an encouragement to someone some day. I am kinda sick of not being the helper anymore.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
