Thanks, Jethro. Yes, once I had a chance to adjust to the humility of feeling myself and my behavior so exposed to the world , I did realize that this was a GREAT learning experience, and, even though I stumbled, I DID make MY OWN decision about not having coffe with the guy, and I've now admitted one of the serious flaws I have that allowed me to have the affair in the first place. After the initial agony of having your flaws exposed, there is that strength of knowing "this is just a problem that I CAN fix!"
