You said this. "How about we let the moderators do the moderating (it is their job, after all!)?"
Please go back and re-read what was said yesterday evening by a moderator. The moderator was clear on two aspects of this thread. a)I have not been disrespectful and b)the affair is wrong.
I totally agree with IMP on the premise of this board. DBing is not going to condone anyone having an affair as a practice of a 180 or GAL. That's not being judgemental at all. DBing is not always going to save your marriage, but it will improve your life if the marriage does not work. Affairs are not about improving your life or a way to cope with the crappy hand life is dealing you right now. That's not judgemental or disrespectful- it just basic life 101.
I would love to help MMB, but as mentioned- she's not ready. Right now, she is validating her actions.
When she is ready to work on DBing, I am sure many will help her. But she does have to step up to the plate.
I am not going to say she shouldn't post here. By all means, post away- but when you air dirty laundry don't get upset when we try to hand you some soap!
M: 39 H: 40 D: 12 S: 9 Married: 10 years Together: 11 years Dday- March 14th, 2008 Bomb-I don't love you-Easter 2008
Currently-living in same home, slowly working back towards a marriage.
