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[Bworl]

I really do not think the reason that he's mixed up in the head is the alcohol. You've said this a couple times now, and I'm beginning to think that YOU think the issue here is the alcohol.

It's not.

Yes, the drinking is making all this harder, and it is yet another crutch he is using to escape from the discomfort he is in. I don't know if he's ready to come home or not because I'm not there living it like you are.

I do know this however.

There is no piecing with a spouse who maintains contact with their adultery partner. And maybe you do not consider yourself to be piecing, maybe there is a distinction there that I'm not appreciating. The bottom line for me would be that I, ME, the SPOUSE, I am supposed to be the reason they came back and they are supposed to have broken off contact with their partner in crime by then.

I know your approach has been different, and I appreciate the patience and steadfastness you have shown with your husband. I'm not trying to discourage you either. Your husband is making progress. I simply don't believe that he belongs home when he is this messed up. Allow him to have this time to HIMSELF and let him either get his act together or sink.

The drinking is a bandaid. It is not THE problem. THE problem is that he is still bouncing around like Tigger.

I really do wish all of you the best. You deserve a break from all of this.


Blessings,

Bill