LL, lots of good perspective. And Shiny, good suggestions on how to behave. Actually, just the realization of how MISGUIDED my perspective was has helped me.
Sent an email to the guy saying "I don't feel comfortable...it's a once-a-client-always-a-client thing...I feel a bit uncomfortable going from therapist to civilian even though I'm not practicing anymore...not that I'm going to avoid you at school, I'd just prefer to keep the boundaries as they are..." He send a reply saying "If it makes you uncomfortable, no problem. I'll see you around."
I sent a reply saying "thanks for understanding."
ANd you know, it was SO SIMPLE. I did a good job. All I had to do was cut through the fear, admit that my (former) way of doing things was actually somewhat disrespectful, and really wimpy, and then I just said "thanks but no thanks, no hard feeling."
D*mn. Life is so simple if you just take a moment to get your head screwed on straight. And talk to your H about stuff...He's such a sweetie. I'm very lucky.
I'm sleepy...had great picnic with the kids (rain finally let up) and then came home and worked on the yard. I LOVE to do that. This is the first summer we've ever owned a home and been able to work outside w/o having to chase a kid every 15 seconds (or less). FINALLY!
Ok, gotta go.
Thanks again for all your support. You know, I've said this before to people, and I don't mean to dig for any more info from anyone (unless you feel a need to share), but I don't think I've ever met a woman whom I've known well enough for her to share stuff like this with me, who hasn't either been raped/molested or had to have an abortion.
Not that men don't have it tough too, I know you do. But geez, we women do get placed QUITE FREQUENTLY into positions where we end up feeling guilty/out of control. Helps so much to share our experiences, but society still puts a lid on us doing so. Well, we put it on ourselves, becuase, sometimes to share is to open yourself up to even more vulnerability that we just don't need.
