Yep Husband, I think we are at the same point in this. I would say for you not to make any major life decisions while starting a new medication. Congratulations by the way on quitting smoking. I know that must be especially hard right now. Try to focus on that for the moment.
My H is also much better than he was 9 months ago, but I don't know if it is good enough. Who knows, maybe he will be back to normal one day. I saw him peek out back in November and December...but it seems he has gotten back to his indifference. Who is to say he won't always be like that. I just don't know if I can trust him to be the person I need him to be.
I agree Husband, I think this conversation will be make or break for me too. There is no turning back. Might I suggest when/if you decide to give this ultimatum...you go about it a different way. Even though it is tempting, don't threaten to send the pictures. Tell her what you need (retro, counseling, committment), and what you will do if she doesn't want to agree to these things (leave, file for D). If she agrees to do these things, you want it to be because she doesn't want you to leave...not because she is afraid you are going to send the pictures to OM's W.
