How about this: the next time some man comes up to you and asks if he can buy you a cup of coffee, say, "no, but can I have the money instead?"

I wrote extensively about Sam's and my counseling last night with my reasons for why I feel it should be, especially because of the way our marriage is right now, instinctive to say, "No. It isn't appropriate." She doesn't want to hurt someone else's feelings? Um, hello...what about me over here.

Now before everyone jumps on me for being insensitive let me impart to you all that I have never called Sam naive and that I absolutely love how kind she can be. She has an inner and outer beauty unsurpassed by any in my eyes.

But can't you understand my anger? I have only known about the affairs for eight weeks, and this sitch doesn't lend itself to my trusting her more.

If it helps, I want everyone to know that I feel the way most, if not all, of you think about this sitch, combined now with what you know about her past. I have felt as you all do for many years and I have tried to help as much as I could. I want her to be happy and healthy. There's more, of course, but I am too tired to write of it.

Thank every single one of you for helping Sam (and me).