The funny thing is I am not as angry at my wife as I am the OM. Mainly bcz he is also married w/kids and KNOWS she is M. So that pisses me off more. Weird huh?!
I don't think that is weird. I feel the same way! The OW in my sitch was a friend and her d14 went to preschool for 3 years with my S14. The OW is now divorcing, but was married with kids, and my H of course is also.
I think from my sitch and others I've read about here, many of the OWs and OMs are dysfunctional; many seem to have lots of problems. I guess that's why they are more willing to have affairs with married people and married people with kids. If they were normal, they wouldn't do the stuff they do! I think that is prob. a big reason why they say 90% or so of these affairs fail (plus my H was kind of in fantasyland about how separation/divorce would be so wonderful for everyone?!?!). I think my H is having an MLC too, so hope he will come out of that at some point also! Karen
If they were normal, they wouldn't do the stuff they do! I think that is prob. a big reason why they say 90% or so of these affairs fail (plus my H was kind of in fantasyland about how separation/divorce would be so wonderful for everyone?!?!). I think my H is having an MLC too, so hope he will come out of that at some point also! 
Karen