Originally Posted By: MichelleLT


But in the meanwhile, I'll just pass along what I have been trying to do - talk honestly when my H wants to discuss things, be supportive and validating of him, reassure him the door is open, keep my expectations low, hope for the best, and always keep the worst in the back of my mind but don't let the fear control me.

Time will tell. \:\) At this point, I think we can handle anything!


This is what i need to do myself..I think I'll save this as a reminder..you sound so strong..Wish i could feel this way too..Oddly enough I felt stronger when i threw him out , at least then I knew he was with OW, now it's the what if's that are killing me..

Me: 36 H: 34
2 D's: 10+13
Married: 13 yrs(Together 15)
Found out about A-Jan 08
Finally ended April 08..I hope??
Struggling to co-exist in peace