It's interesting in that you have some similarities to my W. She also has a difficult time saying no when she should...like at bars and such. My sister, on the other hand, will be downright rude sometimes, which isn't the right approach either, but there is a balance here. As well, my W has also been molested. It's not something that she really consciously remembers (but there are "body memories"), but she does get uncomfortable with certain things sometimes. Oddly enough, she has always been one to speak her mind and not really hold back (kind of like LL )...so the dynamic with her is interesting. Are you similar in this respect?
It already seems like you know the answer here. This man's "advances" don't entirely seem innocent to me, but I'm only reading a limited description... Instinctively you already know what boundaries are reasonable and what are not. I guess, as LL suggested, it's a matter of learning how to say no thanks...and if they persist, be more insistent.
I'm sorry you've had to go through what you did some years back. Molestation is unspeakably awful...and its affects are never really reconciled.
