well, a funeral is a big thing, despite all the time he's missed at school attending her funeral is a big thing.
I also was dragged to D, kicking and holding onto the door frame, but in the end I realized I was being labeled as desperate, bitter, etc etc, it was making me look like the mad woman. I'm not, and if the man doesn't want to be with me I'm not forcing the issue, I did for so long to no avail, at this stage in my sitch, it wouldnt' change a thing.
YOU can make this very hard for you or you can set your gears into a different state of mind: talking to a L and looking out for your best interests without turning into the stbx from hell.
As you said, he'll go through with it with or without your cooperation.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
