I want you to know I and others support and don't dismiss your pain. I know you love this woman, but let me tell you, their are alot of issues to deal with and sounds like there still might be alot of baggage from previous relationships.
Chill out, take care of yourself, have her things ready to go on Sunday and be quiet don't talk about it in your small town with anyone, and just let things play out. Then re evaluate the sitch in about two weeks. Stay out of the drama as much as you can.
Best of luck.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!