Totally Lost after 23 years

[CBK]

Okay, I did the wrong thing... I am working out of the house today and went pick up trash. My wifes diary was sitting there... You know the temptation was too much. So I read - she started this diary when she dropped the bomb.

Not great stuff. Although I knew she was continuing to talk to OM for emotional support. He isn't sure what he is willing to do. Even her counselor said the two of them have a strong emotional connection and she says that there is no spark with me or could never see us together again. She knows she will probably loose the other guy eventually. She has basically seen our long marriage as just the right thing to do. She is so attached to this guy right now, there is no hope for "us" - but I get that.

She also said that she is going to stay through the summer so she can fight for the house in September when the kids go back to college.

HELP - what I am going to do in MC today is tell her that I cannot work on us as long as he is in the picture, nor can she work on her as long as he is in the picture. That is the only thing I am going to say about the OM today. No more, no less. I am half tempted to ask her to leave the house in May and move out on her own. Is this the correct thing to do?

She says her reasons for leaving is that it is too late and now she has seen what a true emotional partner can be like - she doesn't love me (still rips my heart out).

The sad part for me is that she said interupted my call this morning to say good bye - this was right after she wrote in her journal.

NOW WHAT?