Originally Posted By: JMC
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That IS who they REALLY are.

RMG - I can totally understand your points. The above quote is what I in particular struggle with. I believe this MLC monster is real and that my W is not really this way. Since this has gone on, none of my family or friends has said to me 'I always knew she was trouble,...etc.', rather they have expressed shock and wonder what is going on with her.

This thread originally attracted me because of the question regarding regret, which I believe most of them eventually have once they come to their senses. Regarding being a good christian, I feel that is what must happen for them to realize what they have done. Who knows, but I appreciate your thoughts.

JMC


JMC,

Been there. Done that. My exWAW was the ONLY woman I trusted with all of me. The problem was I did NOT see her for who she really was. She was a person who only loved herself. When the little bump in the road came, she blazed off. She showed she had zero character. That is fine with me. God turned my sitch into something beautiful beyond my wildest dreams.

My whole point is they broke their M vows. I honestly do not think anyone is going to go out and do something they would not think is right to them. Even if MLC lowers their impulse resistance or whatever, they are still exercising free will given by God. To think this is not how your W is is purely denial. She is choosing this path.

Would a man run out and have a homosexual R because he was in MLC? I would think not because that is NOT who he is. Hence, the MLCers are just acting according to their core morals and values.

I personally would not want a woman who did not want to work on M, is "sampled" by other men and then wants to come back into the M. I guess I am an old-fashioned romantic. When you love someone, you do everything in your power to make it work. You do not seek sex or emotional support from OP besides professionals and family members.

I believe God will judge these wayward spouses. I do not think they get a "free pass" on their actions.

RMG

Last edited by RMG; 04/17/08 04:06 PM.
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