Stronger - but still confused

[Snow White]

For awhile now I have been following LWB's thread and she(you) have posted to me and mentioned how it is hard for H to be gone but it is calm and peaceful. I now know what you mean. H has not slept at home for the past 4 nights, he was at the house until time to sleep on Sunday and Monday (suday stomped out, monday made the decision to move out) Tuesday was there until I got off work to watch D and yesterday not there at all. so it hasn;t been very long but already I feel the difference. I am still sad but I can feel the detachment, I am coming to terms with what is likely the end and picturing life on the other side.

The reason I have already called a lawyer is this. It is not that I have given up(although part of me has) H has rec'd calls 3 times this week from a financial company asking to speak to him. He took out a loan a few years back behind my back, I have never seen paper work on it so I have no idea how much it is for or what the collateral is. I am afraid that whatever they are collecting for is going to give me problems and that he may incur more debt behind my back. I cannot trust him not to do this. Does anyone know, could he use community assets - like our house - towards a loan without my signature?