The more a man does the basics the better he gets and the more results he sees.
Ping will begin to see that he really has been acting unhappy for awhile and that his wife just happened to be the vehicle that has shown him this. He needs to work on being happy. This HAS to come first. That is why it is important for him to keep some balance in his life as he goes through this difficult time.
I would like to see him continue on the path he started yesterday with his wife. It is also good for him, and good for her to see him continue to pursue his own loves and interests. This can be golf, collecting putters, fishing, building models, or whatever else that he really loves to do. The issue that his wife has is not GOLF. It is not collecting PUTTERS. It was that she felt that it was an obsession and MORE IMPORTANT than her. He did make it look that way. She will allow him to enjoy his hobbies after she "FEELS" that her feelings and thoughts and wants and needs are MORE IMPORTANT than golf or whatever. Most women really don't care if their man has other interests and hobbies, and as a matter of fact respect a man more when he does. Howver, a woman does have a problem with a man who ignores her and doesn't show interest in what SHE loves and likes.(fake it if you have to) What is important to her should be important to Ping.
Don't worry. She will notice. Ping needs to keep golfing and enjoying it, but handle golf EXACTLY like he did when the going to the beach conversation came up with his wife.... He should be as flexble as she was. Did you notice that she said SHE would not go to the beach? She quickly was willing to change HER plans and fun.
This is how he should react if he has a golf outing planned and something comes up with the family....
"Mrs. Ping, I going to call off my golf outing so that we can____________ (fill in the blank here).....
AND he should do it HAPPILY and WILLINGLY for HER... He can golf another time...
I would bet that she would do the same thing he did when she wanted to go to the beach... "that's all right Mr. Ping, you go ahead and golf and I will take care of the kids"..
TEAM... She wants to be a TEAM.. She wants to be ONE....
That is how a team operates. She secretly craves Ping to take some more control of the discipline and decision making, while still taking her feelings into account ALWAYS. The woman usually responds if he just does it like it is no big deal and isn't looking for approval or a pat on the back. These are things he should have been doing all along. She has. He said she is a giving person by nature. It is time he took the bull by the horns here and gotten involved in this stuff with her and show their kids that mom and dad are a team.
