Come on Over!

[KarenMarieS]

yea ya gotta have your own "thang" I think thats what keeps the you as well as the R fresh and free

I use to THEN Ry got older , no more school activities ( he didnt want me at the school all the time!!! well!!!! lol and no more soccer/baseball)AND i left my job, or they moved out of state AND we moved from my hometown and my friends/family and I became way too needy and clingy to my boys
Will NEVER do that again!!

B loves to go hiking , and I am so glad he has a group of buddies he goes with, I, wouldnt hike for nuttin, unless of course there was an outlet mall at the top and they were having a huge sale! I do the down to the beach w/ the girls for brunch and wine thing, thanyou very much

[FRIEND]

I agree with Bethie, after the Ex left all I wanted to do was date, I look back now and it was my self esteem that was so damaged I didn't think anyone would be interested. Once I found out it wasn't that way, I went on to be way more realistic. It was just to rid my pain, that's all.

Now that I've been alone for 6 years, I just won't settle, I enjoy being alone so like Karen, you'd have to pass alot of tests before I would even consider marriage again.

Been there, done it....................lol.

More later, off to work.

Love to you all,
Friend

[Survival_Goddess]

When I first became a LBS I used to say that I was definitely someone who wanted to be married. Now I am not so sure.

Part of me feels that the point of marriage is to have a family, raise the kids, etc.

I have a friend who is old enough to be my mother (almost)...She was a LBS about 25 years ago. She tells me she never completely got over it...but soon after the bomb she went to live in France for a year! Talk about GAL!

Anyway, she met the man she now lives with. They have been together 20 years. They have durable power of attorney for each other. They take care of each other and in nearly every way that I can think of, they are "married". Just no marriage certificate or church wedding.

I really like my own space and my own life. I do hope to have a special r with someone tho...Just don't ask me to do the drudgery. I don't want to be a nursemaid.

Just my .02

SG

[ALL6785]

I'll do my own drugery thanks, it's way more better than dealing with R issues. Ok I'm not much on dusting but hey! The dust bunnies and I seem to get along fine, they stay on their side of the room and I stay on mine.

[KarenMarieS]

I'm not locked yet???

okkkk. Well lock lock lock lol

Well, not much to add lol just want to be locked, although still iffy if i'll start a new thread. I have read a post or two that seems to poopoo the socializing here, I dont know, I dont see anything wrong w/ it, I mean it would be a sad case if every day we had issues and needed help.
So if we can come here and share ideas, have some fun and know that people are here who will help us pass a hump- whats wrong w/ that? I never cared for friends who just called me when they needed help w/ a prob, I say a friend is there to share the good and bad, like we do.
Its also nothing to do w/ not having other friends like someone suggested, We all seem to have busy lives w/ other friends, I know I do, its just the bond thing of having gone thru things at approx. the same times. Thats all

AND I have a wonderful man in my life, and I pinch myself at times, cause I didnt think that 1- I could love any one again and 2 someone would put up w/ me ! lol.
So I am thankful we found each other- Him being a LB at one time does help us understand each other, him prob more, since hes been through all the feelings and has come out the other side, even to be good friends w/ his ex.

Ok nowwww lets seeeee if this locks.
If it does, Have a good weekend everyone. Both my boys are comin home this weekend, B and my son, roll out the Barbque!

[KarenMarieS]

oh and All, I'll come dust if you pay me in your delish wine!!

[fig]

hey Karen

just trying to be a good friend and lock your thread!!!

I love socializing

i forgot how when LSS left

i like remembering things like socializing and dating

I found an amazing guy too
and
we are happy and normal and that makes me siiiiiiiiiiiiigh in that good way!!!!

heres to a thread lock

maybe you can offer drinks all around to anyone who keeps posting to lock your thread

i would like a captn and coke please!!!

[BarbieDoll]

Karen: OK, my turn to try locking - just for you!

I haven't read anything about not socializing. I don't think this bb should be used as a dating site, especially for those who are still working on their marriages, but...

C'mon - this is a support group of friends. How can you not socialize? Jeesh!

Anyway, I ditto what SG says. I think marriage is about family and I always thought I was a "marriage minded" person. Not so sure anymore. Guess I'll cross that bridge when if ever I come to it. For now - I'm happily single.

Lock Lock Lock,

Barb

[Trip]

Cheers ladies! I think socializing is great. Don't stop.

I think this place is a great outlet for many of us. It is a place for us to chat, vent, commiserate, and have fun. It is also a place where we know someone else that can relate to our situations. Something that not all of us have outside the boards. It doesn't mean we don't have other things in our live like you say, Karen. I think it means it is just another part to our lives.

You guys are great.

[KarenMarieS]

HERE HERE!! OR is it HEAR HEAR??? lol

Thanks guys!! I think so too, I totally agree with you Trip, and Barbie and Fig,

I think like my purses , I get tired of my threads after 120 posts lol so I want a new one! Gotta think of a song tho. hmmmmm
must ponder!

Ok you are right Fig, DRINKS ALL AROUND, COME AND GET EM!