Oh - and IMO don't leave because folks think she won't be able to handle it. Although this is understandable, your W is not going to ask you to come back cos the wall needs painting, or her car won't start...she might struggle with such mundane elements of life and sure 24/7 parenting of 2 boys would be very tough but perhaps she would tough it out. Also this would be a punitive action I think - what you're saying with your actions is "you need me" - she has got to "want you".
She wants to have her emotional needs fulfilled - jump over to Marriage Builders for this stuff, and your job is to see if there are ways you can stay in the house and bit by bit start to meet those needs more effectively than you have been doing.
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
