For the guys with kids and a WAW

[hopeful4her]

Thinking of giving WW a letter. I would love to hear from everyone to find out if it is the right thing to do. Snooped a bit in her purse (I know, but I couldn't help it) and found the names of a couple of local attorneys. She had the day off and told me about a doctors appointment (I did find the receipt for that)that she had. No business cards or anything that would indicate a meet with an attorney. I did find a brochure from a fertility clinic here in town. In vitro, tubal reversals. Different stuff. WW had her tubes tied in hospital when D6 was born. Strange.

WW,

I believe that our friendship is just as important to you as it is to me. But like I said to you the other day, we can no longer be best friends if you insist on keeping up this affair with OM. End the affair and all contact with him, then we can talk about things. If you insist on keeping the relationship with him, then I will have no choice but to protect myself and the kids from your destructive behavior and you’ll know that you have also destroyed our friendship. I am not trying to control you or manipulate you. I have never done that and I never will. All I wanted from you was a fair chance to work on our relationship, our marriage and our family. I now realize that there was no way that that was going to happen with him still in the picture.

A few weeks ago I asked you for six months. Not the rest of your life. Give our relationship a true chance. I could understand you feeling that you want to try your independence. That’s one thing, but leaving for another man. You know that it is wrong. I will not let you lie to me anymore about him.

I choose to no longer have you rub the affair in my face anymore. I will not be treated like that anymore. You were upset that I was smothering you and trying too hard to get my feelings across to you. You sure did take and take during this time. I have now disconnected from the person that keeps on me hurting and decided to live my life the best that I can with you or without you.

If your relationship with OM is the most important thing to you, and you push for a separation or divorce, then we can let the attorneys hash out things. This is not the way I want it to be, but like I told you before, I will do what I have to do to keep the girls with me. I do not trust your decisions, and I’m afraid his lies to you are going to hurt this family beyond repair.

I do still love you. I truly believe that nothing will change this fact. I have taken the part that I have played in your affair to my heart and accept it. I do not accept responsibility for your decision to have the affair. Just my part that led you to that fork in the road.


Me

Please let me know what ya'll think. I'm not sure if my dimness is getting to me more than to her. It hasn't been very long, but I sure hate it. I'm not sure if her trying to nicely engage me is just in my own mind.