Perhaps I did not state that correctly, I just meant when an intimate relationship has played a big part in your life and it ends, you look to replace it, it leaves a big hole. Handle adversity on your own? I think we all need others to help us through things. Some turn to friends, some turn to affairs. Some turn to cyberspace, but whatever gives you support you need. i have never had an affair and I have been married for 35 years. Yes, I thought about it and considered it , but couldn't. But somehow, I don't think that is the issue here. I think MMB and her H are two people who married young and both felt they had missed something. They both sound smart enough to maybe recognize this and find their way back for the sake of their kids and themselves
