I can tell you if the recorder is good or not. My W had a one night stand one she did't tell me for 9 years. 2 months ago she droped the bomb on me. i was devistated. at first i didn't want to know anything. but i had to know what i was up against. i had to know every little dirty detail. after about a week of knowing i asked how may times they had sex. she told me twice. over the first wek of knowing the answers she was giving me lead me to belive that it was one time. know that she had sex twice was like she had an A allover again. i could go tyo sleep at all. i worked for about 12 hours at my work 230 am to 230 pm went home and took care of the kids and ref'ed 3 basketball games that night. i was emotionally physically drained. the whole day i had every emotion a person can feel that day.
that being said the recording that you have i think is a tool to kave knowledge. does your W know that you have it? telling the OM W most likely make you fell better in the short fall. it is up to the OM to tell his wife. ans on the other hand it make put an end to the emotional A she is having w\OM. it is a dission you have to make on your own.
best of luck. keep the faith your not alone with god on your side
