Totally Lost after 23 years

[CBK]

Thanks Stella and Addie - it was a passing thought. Just got off the plane and headed home - was able to read and do more homework in DR. I knew that was a bad thought - and I wouldn't do it. Just having a "moment." I told W that I would not tell a sole other than therapists.

We go tomorrow, so I am taking advice from you all and will not bring up the affair unless she does. As long as he is in the picture, she will not work on us - that much I get.

I will get home and tell her hello - see if she has any interest in my trip back east. See how she is doing - will get the "fine" answer. Then head off to bed.

Groan.

How do you get W to read other books. Even though therapists tell her affair is temp, hers will be different. I know some do work out, maybe this is one of them.

Right now, I have little resentment for the A - I want to learn from it and see how I can do things different - for this W or my next relationship. I have a good idea, but both at fault, which will be tomorrow's MC talk.

At least we are in counseling, she lives in the same house and is cordial with me. Those are all positives right now.

Thanks again.