I don't see anyone being judgemental. I also don't think any of us have said she should not be "forgiven" for her affair. If so, please point me to that post.
What I am saying is that in order for her marriage to be saved, she needs to find herself. It should not require another individual to "comfort" you. If a person lacks the coping skills to comfort themself, then they need to learn. You can not honestly do that when you are in a love triangle with a spouse and another man.
I don't condone affairs of either sex. However, I do believe in forgiveness and I do believe that you can move past an affair to a happy marriage- but in order to do so... you have to STOP the affair.
M: 39 H: 40 D: 12 S: 9 Married: 10 years Together: 11 years Dday- March 14th, 2008 Bomb-I don't love you-Easter 2008
Currently-living in same home, slowly working back towards a marriage.
