If Monkey showed any amount of remorse or repentance people would be doing all that they could to help her through this and get her on a path to save herself if not her marriage. She is not. She wants to justify her affair.
This is a board where people come to for help to SAVE their marriages and themselves. There are many on this board who have had front row seats for a sick little play called "My spouse is having an affair." The mere thought of someone coming here and doing her damnedest to justify having an affair, when others have left no stone unturned to repair a marriage where in spite of an affair by their spouse, turns even the strongest of stomachs.
When Monkey is truly ready for help there are many who will be right there to help her along.
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
