I went with the "I don't know anything approach"...
H called at 7 to give me the kindergarten roundup info. I told him I was in the middle of giving both kids a bath so I would call back.
Called back at 7:30, got VM. H called back at 8. Gave me the details. Told me when the parent meeting was, and what time.
I asked (STUPID), "Are we going together?" H's reply, "Why wouldn't we go together?" I said, "Oh, nothing, I wasn't sure with your work in Omaha, and me driving up from K.C. if we would get it coordinated".
What I meant was, if you tell me this weekend you don't want our marriage, are we still going together. But yay, I didn't say that.. Don't know if it "means" anything that he said "why wouldn't we". Because I plan to be the best "team" for our son whether we stay married or not, so I would want to do these things together either way.....it is just that this meeting is 1 week from now, so the whole thing would be so "new" if we decide to officially separate.
Including talking to D and S, it was a 15 minute phone call. Probably too long, but in light of the "mom" call earlier today I was wanting him to see I am regular old me, not in the middle of some scheme...he didn't mention the call and neither did I, so I think we are safely past it. Besides, in retrospect, his mom calls me 4-5 times a week. And I don't have (much of) a problem with it
Also, he said S goes to the 1/2 day of school BOTH days in May, he got assigned the afternoons. I said of course I would bring him up and take time off for those. H said he was going to come down from work (35 minutes away) over his lunch to drop S off with me. That is really great b/c H has always used work as an excuse NOT to do things like that--dr appointments, field trips at preschool, etc. Now he is taking a day off for the ear surgery, and taking two long lunches for the kindergarten roundup. I think, for his own sake, those are good developments.
