Hello Mr. MLC part quatro...

[Runswithscissors]

Your response was done to me, but I am confused on if it was intended for me or MMB.

In the event it was for me.

a) I have not asked for advice from you.

b) you can't help my situation as I am dealing with a bi-polar spouse and DBing principles do not nec. work. Furthermore, I don't think you have any experience in bi-polar disorder. I have my therapist for that.

c) Change? I have made nec. changes needed in my situation.

If I do ever need advice from you- I will address it at that time.

[sgctxok]

You know what, mmb --- you weren't being disrespected by 'Runs'. Being called on about an affair on this board is fair. It isn't the high road. Being called on it and being 'judged' while you're still in the midst of it is a good thing.

That's different than if you are over it, sorry....and still being called on it.

MMB -- no ultimate good can come of the affair.

[Forrest Gump]

RWS.. I would say that DB.com has some weird issue with the RE:

Honestly.. I have never paid attention to it.

Usually the post on someones thread is directed at them. If for some reason you need to talk to someone else you direct it by using their name. As I did.

You can rest assured nothing I post will be directed at you.

Furthermore, never assume where some one has experience.

I will assure you.. you don't know me.

Now DB.com is all about doing something different. They chose the interface not me.

You can call me "Yoda". You can call me "childlike". You can say I speak in 3rd person. I do it all for a reason. I have built connections with people here based on that. I don't care if it was 1 person. I am OK with that.

You said you liked honesty.. I have made my share of mistakes. I have been alot of places.

I work "here" (on this thread). With MMB. Please.. let me do my thing. If you have something of value you throw it up. Please don't distract me. Things go wrong when I defend myself. I feel like I have to do it. Please.. Please.. just stop.

I am sorry that I offended you the other night.

[Forrest Gump]

"You know what, mmb --- you weren't being disrespected by 'Runs'. Being called on about an affair on this board is fair. It isn't the high road."

Being called out is fair. It's not the high road.

Here is where you went wrong..

"Being called on it and being 'judged' while you're still in the midst of it is a good thing."

You missed the point she did not want to be "judged". She was looking for help. She wants out and she wants the quick "fix". I don't understand how you can miss someone reaching out.

I have a question...

Are you willing to stand by your words..?

"MMB -- no ultimate good can come of the affair."

What if it gave her just enough gumption to make it work?

What if it gave her the clarity to see what she wanted?

Being called on something you do is never a good thing. That person calling you may have crap cards and you can beat them.

[Runswithscissors]

I am guessing you are choosing quick reply instead of replying to the actual post. When you do that, it will just automatically post to the last post in the thread, so you can easily understand the confusion. Not the interface, but how you choose to reply (either quick post or reply to specific post).
Either way- totally understood. Rest of your post is repeatitive of your thread the other day and the day before. No need to defend yourself. You are you and that's cool.

[inmyplace]

Forst,

Please stop. I know sg and she did not miss anything.

An affair by a married person is wrong and two wrongs do not make a right. If it was a good think, how come monkey hasn't told the man with whom she is having the relationship what the story is. monkey has admitted it was not started under the best of conditions.

As for being called on crap, I can honestly say that I have been called on some of mine and it made me a better person. Obviously, you've never had anyone who cares about you enough to do so. Or perhaps, you just think you know better than everyone else, which is sure how you comport yourself on this board. Now, where is your thread? How is your marriage?

IMP

[sgctxok]

Calling you out on your actions and being honest IS the thing friends do with each other. I didn't miss that she is reaching out. She wasn't being told she's a bad person, she's being told she's doing something that's going to take her down the wrong path.

And you bet I'm willing to stand by those words.



Respect is also what's at issue. And everything I've seen by 'Runs' is respectful.




Affairs necessarily hurt people. It's never the right thing to do.

[Forrest Gump]

The big box at the bottom of the page is misleading.

[inmyplace]

This is very simple, Forest. If you don't believe in DBing, then leave.

IMP

[Forrest Gump]

"Respect is also what's at issue. And everything I've seen by 'Runs' is respectful."

Agreed.

I am betting on someone who will never show who they really are.